Beloved, you are the love of my life and I’m grateful for each day with you. Our relationship is the most important part of my life and I am committed to being together forever.
Though we are surrounded by cynicism and challenges, I resolve to love you and be with you for the rest of my life. Through our relationship we will nurture each other and make the world a more loving and positive place for ourselves, for our family, and for everyone we share this planet with.
1. I Promise to Love You Every Day
I know that love is a choice and I choose to love you always. Though I can get busy and have my moods, you deserve my love and attention each and every day. I choose to love you even when I’m upset or frustrated. I know that loving you means being fully present, telling you my truth, being honest and transparent with my thoughts, feelings, wants, and needs so you know fully who I am. I strive to appreciate and treasure you each day that I’m blessed to have you in my life.
2. I Promise to Choose You First
You are the most important person in my life and I commit to not taking you or our relationship for granted, each and every day. Though work, home, finances, family, friends, hobbies, and other stresses and distractions can make this challenging, I choose you first, always.
3. I Promise to Take Responsibility
I understand that my outcomes are 100% dependent upon my own choices and actions, and that my thoughts and feelings are my own. I know that our relationship is a mirror reflecting myself back to me, and that my desire to be happy and feel loved by you depends upon my own ability to allow myself to be happy and to receive your love.
4. I Promise to Say “Yes!”
You deserve my positive response even when I don’t feel like it. Your needs and wants are a gift to my growth and well-being and the key to a great life together. I am committed to your happiness as much as my own. If I’m unable to grant 100% of your desire or request I will respond positively and work with you to find a creative way to meet your underlying need. You can feel safe with me as one who loves you and will respect and honor your needs, always.
5. I Promise to Be Your Hero
When life is challenging (and even when it’s not) you deserve a champion; someone who will be there for you, love and support you unconditionally, no matter what. I commit to being your hero and helping you feel emotionally and physically safe and secure. I believe in you and I believe in us.
To you, my beloved, I freely and joyfully make these five promises and look forward to being together forever.
We believe that these five promises are the best gift you could ever give your partner and your relationship, and it costs nothing. The promises are all in “I” language. They each talk about you and what you are going to do and what your choices are. This is not something that you discuss and negotiate. This is something that you promise your partner unilaterally. You are not expecting anything in return. You are not saying, “I will make these promises if you make these promises, too.” It doesn’t work like that.
if these five promises resonate for you, use the button below to download and print out the certificate. Then sign it and give it to your partner and say, “Honey, I make these five promises to you.” See if it resonates for your partner and see if your partner wants to reciprocate. But don’t wait for approval. That’s part of taking responsibility. Radical commitment starts with you.